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It’s that time of year — back to school

Everyone is about to go back to school. What can you as parents do to help your child settle in quickly and with minimal stress?

One of the biggest questions for anyone going back to school and starting GCSE or A Level is: “Am I doing the right subjects?” This should be the easiest question to answer.  This is where a parent can help.  It is your child’s education, not yours.  Allow him or her to make the decisions.  Yes, guide and support.  But you are not the one sitting in the classroom and writing the exam.

Allow your child to answer these questions:

  • Which subjects do I enjoy?
  • Which ones do I detest?
  • What am I good at?
  • What do I enjoy even though I find it tough?
  • Where do I score well even though I find it deadly dull?
  • What possible career options am I looking at?  Do potential careers demand certain subjects?

Putting all these answers together should allow a pupil to make a rational and independent choice. The golden rule is usually:  if I enjoy it, I will work hard at it and the hard work will be enjoyable.  If I work hard, I will achieve my potential.  But, if I find the subject dull or really difficult, I am not going to enjoy it and ultimately, I will get nothing out of it.

So before the start of term, check with your child:  have you made the correct choices for you?  I am sure that if there has been a change of heart over the summer, a quick chat with the school should allow changes to be made.

But once the new year starts, parents can be a great helping hand.  An important thing to remember is:  for good, productive learning to take place, we all need to be physically, psychologically and socially healthy. Here are some basic guidelines:

  • Encourage a dedicated working environment

Not everyone has the luxury of a room that can be used as a study only.  The bedroom is usually also the workroom.  Install a desk and some shelving.  Encourage your child to keep the desk neat and organised.  Never go to bed with the desk a mess!  If possible, pack everything away before bed time. There is nothing worse than going to bed and you can see the messy desk with incomplete work.  It is a recipe for a very disruptive night’s sleep!

  • Encourage private reading around the subject

This does not need to be expensive.  Most schools now have access to free online resources that your child could log into from home.  Again, ask the school to publish the websites and the login details on the school portal.  Sites like are really useful.

  • Encourage a healthy social life

A good social life is good for maintaining perspective and keeps the stress levels down.

  • Encourage a routine at home

Allow for TV, phone calls,and social media.  But suggest that your child monitors their own use.  There is plenty out there on the dangers of screen time and social media.  To ban it would be foolish.  But show them some of the articles and allow them to see that leaving the phone off and somewhere other than next to the bed is a really good idea.

  • Encourage regular exercise

This might be as simple as walking to and from school.  But good, aerobic exercise is essential for a healthy body and mind. If this exercise can be taken outside, in the fresh air and sunlight, even better.

  • Encourage a regular sleep routine

Good sleeping habits are vital for our physical wellbeing. But there is so much evidence now that suggests good sleeping is essential for productive learning and the development of long term memory.  A regular bed time and waking up time is a really good idea.

  • Encourage a well-balanced, healthy diet

Cut out the junk; keep an eye on sugar intake; drink lots of water.


Everyone gets stressed and anxious at times.  But, the first step to dealing with it is to acknowledge it and to accept it.  Once we know we are getting stressed, we can do something about it.  Teenagers are not always the most communicative. But look for the signs that your child is getting stressed and then offer some help.

But, most importantly, you as the parent need to watch your stress levels and the extent to which your child is picking up on them.  So often I see a child who the parent says is really stressed and anxious.  This is often true but what then becomes apparent in so many cases is that the parent is the one who is really stressed and they are then transferring the stress to their child.  This is particularly true when the eldest child is going through the education system. I understand that for parents, they want the best for their child.  But the parent, and the teacher, needs to create an environment that is as calm and supportive as possible.  When we get stressed, we stress them out. 

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