Do you feel stuck? Are you doubting yourself? Why this is happening? The answer could be really simple: you might be stuck in certain, limiting ways of perceiving yourself and the world around you. Inflexible thinking is exhausting. It causes stress and anxiety. It results in black and white thinking where options are either very limited or simply not available. When we are stuck in in this mode of thinking, we are blocking ourselves from our real potential. Inflexible thinking can lead to anxiety, stress and depression.
What is inflexible thinking?
Anyone can fall victim to this kind of thinking. In schools, it appears in the following types of statements:
- I cannot do this essay.
- Physics is too difficult for me.
In the workplace we hear:
- I am not good enough for this job.
- Those targets are impossible.
What is flexible thinking?
All these statements can be reframed or rephrased in a healthier way.
- I do not have the knowledge to do this essay yet, but I can learn.
- I’m finding Physics difficult at the moment but I know that I have a lot more to learn.
- I might not have all the skills I need for this role yet, but I am very keen to learn.
- Those targets are tough but what can I do that will make them more achievable?
We all have the ability to learn more, improve our memory and ultimately be better judges of our own ability and potential. But we might need help to guide ourselves down this more productive and ultimately happier path. If we can change they way we think about things, we can face any challenge that comes our way with energy and confidence.
If you would like to learn how you can shift the way you think about yourself and the world around you, contact me here or call me. I could help you make some easy changes to the way you perceive yourself and your future.
I would recommend you do is head to the Human Givens Institute website and complete the Emotional Needs Audit. This will give you a really good idea if your innate emotional needs are being met. If they are not, it is time to ask yourself why. Not getting our emotional needs met and limited thinking can lead to anxiety, stress and depression.
Carol Dweck came up with the idea of fixed and growth mindsets. You can read more about her work here.