Exam time for parents can be as stressful, some times more so, than for the pupils writing the exams. For those parents whose first born is sitting external exams for the first time, the next few months could be especially difficult. But creating a relaxing and calm environment at home is going to be vital for all of you. As the parent or carer, you have the task of establishing and maintaining an environment that is conducive to effective and efficient revision. And it is easier than you think.
One of the best things about being a therapist is that the opportunities to learn are endless. Our understanding of the brain continues to grow and with that understanding comes new ways of helping those who need it. Last year I decided to invest in learning EMDR therapy and enrolled with the EMDR Centre London. I am very pleased that I am now qualified to offer EMDR in Central London.
EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing and is a safe and effective way of dealing with anything from depression to anxiety to trauma. Recently it featured heavily in the press. Prince Harry revealed that he has visited an EMDR therapist to help him deal with his own mental health. It is a very interactive style of therapy which allows the client to be very engaged in the process. It has been designed with client safety at the forefront. For this reason clear protocols have been created for the therapist or counsellor to use. I have found it to be effective with both teenagers and adults.
If you want to read a little more about the technique, it is explained very well on this page. They provide a really good explanation of what it is.
I can now offer face to face EMDR in Central London. It does need a bit of time and a typical session lasts 90 minutes. If you are interested, give me a call and I will aim to see you as soon as possible.
When last did you sit back and evaluate your Emotional wellbeing? Mental health depends on emotional health. As humans, we all have needs. Physical needs such as food, water and shelter are the obvious ones. But when last did you check on your Emotional needs and if they are being met? Optimal mental health relies on our Emotional needs being met in a healthy way.
There is a really easy way for you to check if your needs are being met.
It is Children’s Mental Health week. This is another great initiative from Place2B and highlights, in particular, the difficulties our children are facing right now. This year, the theme is “Express Yourself”. Children can spend up to 8 hours a day at school. For many, it is the place where they do just that. Drama, music, break time on the playground and even classroom activities like creative writing all provide an outlet for them to express their dreams, desires and fears. But with school not there, it is left up to parents and caregivers to provide an outlet.
I recently wrote an article for Morning Lazziness where I explored the idea of when we should think about seeing a counsellor, psychotherapist or coach. I have written about this before but it is a question that is being asked more and more. Many also do not understand the difference (if there is one!) between a counsellor, psychotherapist or coach.
We all have moments when life throws us a problem or difficulty that unsettles us. For some, we are able to roll with it muddle our way through it. But some of us need a helping hand. This does not mean that we are mentally ill. It simply means that life has thrown a curve ball and we were not quite ready for it. We might need a bit of a helping hand to get back on track. We might be in need of a tweak, or some guidance just to get through a particular moment in our lives.
All therapists I know have had clients who have suffered a debilitating traumatic event. Some of these clients have developed Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). For some of these clients, the trauma has been endured for years. Those who have lived in an abusive household, for example, can develop what is called complex PTSD. Counselling that focuses on healing the emotional and psychological wounds of traumatic events can be very effective. As a Human Givens therapist, I use a technique called The Rewind. I recently wrote an article for Welldoing.org explaining the essence of the technique. You can read it here.
Trauma can be debilitating and exhausting. It can also have profoundly negative impacts on our personal lives. Trauma can leave us unable to form meaningful relationships. However, it does not have to be a life sentence. The Rewind is simple, yet powerful. It can be highly effective after one session. It is also highly effective for those who have developed phobias. A phobia is often related to a specific event. The Rewind can deal with that event.
If you would like to learn more about healing the emotional and psychological wounds of traumatic events, click here to read the blog. You can read more about the technique here. It is a safe technique that can be very powerful.
Contact me if you feel this could be useful for you.
As a counsellor and psychotherapist, I also experience life’s difficulties and troubles. Like my clients, I have times when my emotions take over. I have to stop and stand back and reflect. An effective counsellor understands feeling weak and vulnerable. We know what it means to make changes to our world in order to be able to function in a healthier way. I know what it means to look after my own well-being.
These are uncertain times for us. Anxiety caused by the corona virus is rising daily. The lack of control and power is making some of us feel extremely vulnerable. Emotions are running high. We are worried about ourselves and our loved ones. We all know people who are particularly vulnerable and risk. Our physical health is at risk. But so is our mental health. But we can learn how to minimise the anxiety of the corona virus pandemic.
Are you looking for your place of work to become the environment where you have the most value? Are you attempting to get your emotional needs met at work? Is work taking up so much time and energy that you have no time for a life outside of the office? If this rings true for you, that it might be time to stand back and address your work-life balance. It might be time to explore how to make sure your life away from the office has as much meaning and value as possible.
Do you feel stuck? Are you doubting yourself? Why this is happening? The answer could be really simple: you might be stuck in certain, limiting ways of perceiving yourself and the world around you. Inflexible thinking is exhausting. It causes stress and anxiety. It results in black and white thinking where options are either very limited or simply not available. When we are stuck in in this mode of thinking, we are blocking ourselves from our real potential. Inflexible thinking can lead to anxiety, stress and depression.
A healthy mind goes alongside a healthy body. It may be an age old little saying, but the evidence that exercise can boost our mental health is growing all the time.
There is a brilliant article in The Guardian that explores the link between exercise and mental health problems like anxiety and depression. One of the first questions I ask a client (along with “how is your sleep?) is: “Do you exercise?”