work-life balance Archives - Pat Capel

Time to think about seeing a counsellor, psychotherapist or coach?

I recently wrote an article for Morning Lazziness where I explored the idea of when we should think about seeing a counsellor, psychotherapist or coach. I have written about this before but it is a question that is being asked more and more. Many also do not understand the difference (if there is one!) between a counsellor, psychotherapist or coach.

We all have moments when life throws us a problem or difficulty that unsettles us. For some, we are able to roll with it muddle our way through it. But some of us need a helping hand. This does not mean that we are mentally ill. It simply means that life has thrown a curve ball and we were not quite ready for it. We might need a bit of a helping hand to get back on track. We might be in need of a tweak, or some guidance just to get through a particular moment in our lives.

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Working while on holiday

Are you looking for your place of work to become the environment where you have the most value? Are you attempting to get your emotional needs met at work? Is work taking up so much time and energy that you have no time for a life outside of the office? If this rings true for you, that it might be time to stand back and address your work-life balance. It might be time to explore how to make sure your life away from the office has as much meaning and value as possible.

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Using exercise to boost our mental health

A healthy mind goes alongside a healthy body. It may be an age old little saying, but the evidence that exercise can boost our mental health is growing all the time.

There is a brilliant article in The Guardian that explores the link between exercise and mental health problems like anxiety and depression. One of the first questions I ask a client (along with “how is your sleep?) is: “Do you exercise?”

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Do I need a psychotherapist, counsellor or coach?

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Do I need a psychotherapist, a counsellor or a coach?

My official title is Psychotherapist. But I also call myself a counsellor and a coach. And a question I hear regularly is: “Do I need a psychotherapist, a counsellor or a coach?” For some the idea of “psychotherapy” is frightening. It suggests mental illness. Or that there are mental health issues that need to be resolved and that it will be a lengthy, emotionally painful process. In my opinion, it does not need to be either. I see many clients who are living with depression or the impact of terrible traumas. But the style of psychotherapy I use aims to resolve these as quickly and as with as little emotional pain as possible.

But there are many others who give me a ring and come along to see me who are living healthy and, mostly, fulfilling lives. Why have they asked to see me?

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Workplace Stress Part 3

In Part 2, I looked at factors that can cause stress in the workplace. Now, I am going to focus on some stress busting techniques in the workplace. I have written about stress and work life balance before. But here are some reminders and some new tips that are aimed at keeping the stress levels as low as possible.

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Workplace Stress Part 2

In Part 1, I explained our basic emotional needs and our innate resources. I am now going to focus on major causes of workplace stress.

Firstly, it needs to be said that a bit of stress is good for us. Helpful stress is what stretches us; makes us strive and learn new things and feel exhilarated. Stretch normally happens when our needs are being met and our innate resources are being used and developed in a healthy way. It motivates us to perform at our best. But when that stress becomes overwhelming or constant and we never get the time to “rest and digest”, it becomes unhealthy and it can result in exhaustion or burnout. And the result of that is often mental and / or physical ill health.

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Workplace Stress Part 1

In this first part of this series on Workplace Stress, I am going to explore the foundations of what we need in order to be emotionally and mentally healthy within the workplace. Over the next few blogs, I am going to show you how to recognise and prevent stress in the workplace.

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Wellbeing at work

Here are my top 5 tips that could help you minimise stress while at work.

1 Start and finish the day well

This could be as simple as ensuring you are not rushing out the door or running for your train. Children are always told: pack your school bag the night before. Well, we as adults should do the same. Preparation for tomorrow starts today. Get to be bed early enough that you get enough sleep. If you have a presentation tomorrow, pack what you need for it before going to bed. Check laptop is charged. Check your presentation is backed up. Pre-empt anything that could go wrong by preventing it before bedtime. And then on the journey, what can you do to relax? Read? Listen to some music?

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Top 5 work-life balance tips

A lot has been said lately about out work-life balance and its impact on our wellbeing. A recent study in New Zealand found a four day week led to lower stress levels and higher productivity. Let’s be blunt: this option (in the UK it would be called “part-time”) is not an option for most of us.

Here are some ideas if you feel that work is possibly taking over too much:

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